Your spreadsheet can be clear. And still, your system isn’t calm.
Your spreadsheet can be correct.
And still, it can be a bad decision.
Not because you’re incapable.
Because you’re deciding from a state that isn’t truly yours.
Tension.
Pressure.
The need to prove.
Or freeze, disguised as “just a bit more analysis”.
This is the truth: “Investing is emotional intelligence in disguise.”
Who you become under pressure determines:
• Whether you say yes too quickly;
• Whether you postpone endlessly;
• Whether you accept conditions you later don’t want to carry.
Three states I see over and over in investors
• Pushing: forcing, accelerating, winding yourself up;
• Freezing: analysing until you’re empty;
• Disappearing: delaying, distracting yourself, being “busy”.
And then there is the fourth state: Choosing calmly.
That is leadership.
The plan (3 steps)
1. Recognise your state before you decide.
One breath. Shoulders soft. Feet on the ground.
2. Choose your boundary.
What is non-negotiable for you in this deal?
3. Choose one action from calm.
Ask a question. Adjust a condition. Or consciously say no.
Money Archetypes test
If you mainly:
• push forward → often the Warrior;
• carry and swallow → often the Martyr;
• control and steer → often the Tyrant;
• move impulsively → often the Fool.
Then take the test and send me your top two.
It takes only a few minutes.
I’ll give you your deal blind spot in one sentence.
Wealth Coaching Circle for property investors (starting early March)
The Circle starts soon. Small. Personal. Practical.
Focused on calm, agency, and trust in your decisions.
Want to join — or first check alignment?
Email lobke@opsteenmoneycoaching.com with “circle” and we’ll schedule a short check-in.
Mini exercise: Think of your last deal moment.
Did you choose — or did you react?