Last week, I introduced you to Bas. Early forties. Financially secure. Saving? ✔️ Investing? ✔️ Mortgage? Nearly paid off.
And yet… he lies awake at night. His mind races:
“What if I’m found out?”
“What if I lose everything?”
“I have to stay switched on — otherwise it’ll all fall apart.”
He lives in a constant state of alert. As if his success could vanish at any moment. The savings grow — but the sense of peace doesn’t.
🔍 What’s really going on
Bas grew up believing money equalled safety and survival. His parents were always worried about finances.
And he picked up an unspoken belief:
👉 “If I have enough, I’ll be safe.”
But what’s “enough”? That line keeps shifting. So he keeps running — even when he’s already on solid ground.
🔍 Why we do what we do — without realising
In my Money Awareness & Transformation Model™ we use a four-step process to uncover old money patterns.
Together we explore:
- your patterns come from (family, environment, culture)
- The messages you made your own (“I have to do everything myself.”, “I can’t fail.”, “Money is never secure.”)
- Your core values and talents
- How to build a new, conscious money story
With Bas, we didn’t start with spreadsheets — we started with awareness.
🔁 Bas realised he was still living an old truth
When we explored his money biography, Bas saw how his parents lived frugally. Money was “safe” only if you saved it, didn’t spend it, and avoided risk.
His father would often say: “You never know what’s coming — best to hold on to it.”
That message sank deep. Without realising it, Bas was still running on that old ‘software’ — even though his life now looked completely different.
His money behaviour wasn’t weird.
It was old.
And it was based on protection.
💡 How Money Coaching helped
In our sessions, we didn’t just look at the numbers — we explored the emotional layer underneath.
Bas learned to spot his patterns, trace the real source of his fear,
and made new beliefs his own:
👉 “I am safe, even without proving myself.”
👉 “I can choose calm — not just control.”
✨ From unconscious habit to conscious choice
Bas saw just how deeply he’d internalised his father’s voice:
“Be frugal. Play it safe. Expect the worst.”
But he also realised: I want to write a different story. One where financial abundance means freedom, trust and impact..
We worked together on his personal action plan:
🔹He practised setting healthy boundaries (especially around money)
🔹He gave himself permission to enjoy
🔹He made financial decisions based on his values, not his fears
And the best part?
✨ He sleeps better.
✨ He feels more at ease.
✨ And he makes choices that match his current reality — not his past.
🎯 One practical tip for you
Ask yourself:
👉 “What does money mean to me right now?” Is it control? Freedom? Recognition? Safety?
Your answer will tell you more than you think.
🙋♀️ What if you could rewrite your own money story?
Your behaviour around money isn’t weird.
It’s old.
And you’re not a child anymore.
👉 Freedom starts with awareness.
👉 Your decisions change when you change.
💬 Ready to take a closer look at your own money story?
Book a free discovery call via this link. Let’s find out where your freedom begins.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.